Braai Etiquette

The word braai (pronounced ‘bry’) derives from the South African language Afrikaans meaning ‘cook on fire’ generally outdoors, in other parts of the world often called ‘barbeque’. Although I have often braaied alone this event is often culturally central to social gatherings. However it is useful to understand several mostly unspoken rules about such events.

The host is normally responsible for preparing the fire, selecting the wood and/or charcoal, lighting and maintaining the fire ready for cooking. Unless specifically invited it is rude for others to join in, move, add a piece of wood, or mindlessly poke the fire. Although nothing is said some tension occurs taking some time to return to normal. It is quite acceptable to stand near the fire, chat, drink beer or wine, supply the host with drinks and compliment the fire.

For the actual cooking again another may be appointed as ‘braai master’ due to some skill or because the host has become bored. I normally do the cooking as I am vastly experienced, it is the only thing I do to contribute besides talk twaddle, and I am probably the best braai master I have ever met. In reality the braai master is to slave over a hot fire while standing in the burning sun, singe their fingers trying to turn the food, drop hot coals onto their feet, and avoid sweat from dripping onto the food. It is quite a skill as differing food items require varying cooking times, spicing and turning. Naturally the braai master takes full responsibility for the final product which most compliment regardless. It is rude to comment negatively or to offer advice before, during, or after the event.

Besides being outdoors, which alone is healthy, there is something primal about cooking on fire, besides which the food is tainted with the scent of the wood and tastes delicious. Be careful of breaking these protocols and compliment your host both publicly as well as private gentle nudge and ‘well done’ as this will likely ensure another invitation.